A subject that comes up very often with my clients is fear. People have enormous fears that guide their lives. Very often these fears are so habitual that we do not realize how deeply our lives are guided by them, and often stunted by them.
A common fear that I encounter with clients is distress about not being liked, loved, respected, or accepted. I find that we consistently alter our behavior to fit a mold of how we want people to see us, rather than acting in a way that is truest to ourselves.
How often do parents apologize for their children in public? How often do you think others see you negatively? How often do you agree with someone or compliment a person even though it goes against what you really think?
People stay in jobs, friendships, relationships, homes, neighborhoods, cities, and even countries simply because it is what they know, rather than what they want. Familiarity is very deceptive. It presents itself as something safe and secure. But feeling flatlined or dissatisfied with life is often the price we pay.
Usually when we feel stuck, it is because fear is stopping us from moving forward, knowing what to do, or feeling inspired. Many people live habitually without allowing themselves to evaluate their present life and decisions.
If you think about your truest fear, is it scarier to run toward that fear or away from it? Think about it.
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