When our relationship with ourselves improves, our relationship with our partner improves in direct correlation. The more we like ourselves, the more we like our partner. The more forgiving we are with ourselves, the more forgiving we are with our partner.
The more we contribute to our own well-being, the less we expect our partner to do it for us. The more we give to ourselves, the less we need from our partner to fill what we are not giving ourselves. The more we can help ourselves through difficult feelings, the less we need our partner to rescue us from them.
The more we do for ourselves, the less we blame our partner for not doing what we sometimes irrationally demand and expect. Our ability to be healthy with ourselves is directly related to the freedom from expectations that we have with our partner, and that creates room for a true friendship to grow.
When we get rid of drama, we replace it with space for growth, love, and a healthy relationship. It is like a neglected room. When we come in, sweep, mop, scrub, discard unwanted items, and rearrange it so that it becomes clean, functional, and beautiful, it becomes a sanctuary, a place we love to be in.
The same is true of relationships. Sometimes you have to free yourself from the cobwebs of drama in order to make space for love.
